Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most amazing thing that we can ask when we are on a first date with someone. You just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview! Questions are the best way to get to know someone and show them we are interested in them. On a first date you just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview!
Dale Carnegie in his amazing must-read book, "How to win friends and influence people" talks about the power of asking questions to show that we are interested in someone else.
Have you been to a party and been the one asking all the questions and doing all the listening? If you have, you will most likely agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting. You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!
If you're a guy and ask some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to final base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.
If you're a woman and want to brush a guy's ego and make him feel super good and wanted, then just ask him lots of questions and then really listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a dangling string in seconds!
Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here's 21 questions to ask to get conversation jump-started. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.
Here are 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl
1. If you're a waiter and one of your customers was rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or worst still spit in their soup?
2. What was your favourite cartoon character as a kid and why did you enjoy them?
3. If you could choose to have dinner with 5 people (real of fictional) who would you invite and why?
4. If you could suddenly become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?
5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?
6. What was your most favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them and why?
8. What do you regret not doing the most in your life?
8. What was the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with a person who is so way smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?
11. What's the most horrible lie you have ever told someone in your life? Where you caught out and who was it that you told it to?
12. If you were suddenly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?
13. If you do not like someone what do you normally do, show it or hide it and why?
14. Which do you prefer the most in a woman - intelligence, a good body or good looks?
Time to get a little more personal! Maybe you should wait till you have had a few more drinks before asking some of these!
15. Have you ever had sex in a public place? If so did you get caught?
16. What's the difference between sex and making love and which do you prefer?
17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What's your biggest sexual 'turn-ons' and 'turn-offs'?
19. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did they ever find out? If so, what happened?
20. Has anyone ever caught you playing with yourself? If they did what did you do?
21. Have you ever serial sex - with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?
Dale Carnegie in his amazing must-read book, "How to win friends and influence people" talks about the power of asking questions to show that we are interested in someone else.
Have you been to a party and been the one asking all the questions and doing all the listening? If you have, you will most likely agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting. You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!
If you're a guy and ask some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to final base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.
If you're a woman and want to brush a guy's ego and make him feel super good and wanted, then just ask him lots of questions and then really listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a dangling string in seconds!
Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here's 21 questions to ask to get conversation jump-started. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.
Here are 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl
1. If you're a waiter and one of your customers was rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or worst still spit in their soup?
2. What was your favourite cartoon character as a kid and why did you enjoy them?
3. If you could choose to have dinner with 5 people (real of fictional) who would you invite and why?
4. If you could suddenly become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?
5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?
6. What was your most favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them and why?
8. What do you regret not doing the most in your life?
8. What was the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with a person who is so way smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?
11. What's the most horrible lie you have ever told someone in your life? Where you caught out and who was it that you told it to?
12. If you were suddenly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?
13. If you do not like someone what do you normally do, show it or hide it and why?
14. Which do you prefer the most in a woman - intelligence, a good body or good looks?
Time to get a little more personal! Maybe you should wait till you have had a few more drinks before asking some of these!
15. Have you ever had sex in a public place? If so did you get caught?
16. What's the difference between sex and making love and which do you prefer?
17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What's your biggest sexual 'turn-ons' and 'turn-offs'?
19. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did they ever find out? If so, what happened?
20. Has anyone ever caught you playing with yourself? If they did what did you do?
21. Have you ever serial sex - with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?
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